Stuck living with your ex? Here's how to cope living with your former significant other
Sometimes, moving in with your partner makes perfect sense. Too often, people move in with their girlfriend or boyfriend thinking that they’ll never break up. However, moving in with a partner can be risky, as you’ll both be locked into a potentially very long tenancy contract. Here’s to coping with living with your ex.
Many couples take the risk and hope that their relationship will last longer than their tenancy does. Sometimes, however, it doesn’t always go to plan. Couples break up. Then they find themselves forced to live with one another.
Have you found yourself in this situation? Read on to find out how to cope with living with your ex.
Try to keep out of each other’s hair
If you share a room together, this may be harder to do. But you’ll likely have your own rooms, so keeping apart from each other shouldn’t be too difficult. Even though you have shared your lives together, remember that you both have your own lives, friends and schedules. Keep yourself busy, and you’ll probably find that you don’t need to actively avoid your ex.
Keep it civil
No matter how bad the breakup was, try and keep things civil. Try to do this not only for the sake of your own sanities but your flatmates too. The last thing they want is to be kept awake at night by constant arguing. Not keeping it civil could end up with you pushing your friends away too.
Try not to make the same mistake again
When you’re ready to move on, in terms of a relationship and house, try to make sure that you don’t make the same mistakes again. Take things slowly with your new partner. Think about living separately first. You can always spend time at one another’s.
Try to figure things out slowly and get things right this time. You owe it to yourself to turn a negative into a positive.
This is how to cope living with your ex
You have found yourself in a difficult situation, but hopefully with this advice you can cope just fine. If neccessary, your University councellors may be able to help.
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