When you come to university, you will be meeting different people from all around the world who come from different backgrounds and have different outlooks. While this can be a good thing, it can also lead to a lot of arguments
There are a lot of arguments you will end up having at university, it’s inevitable. Living with new people, being apart from other people, and navigating new relationships is always a tricky time. Resolving them is key to staying on good terms with people and living harmoniously.
Read on to find out the 5 different kinds of arguments you will have at university.
The Passive-Aggressive Note Argument
This is one that everyone who lives with flatmates will experience at some point in their university experience. Whether the dishes haven’t been washed, the loo roll hasn’t been restocked, or the bin is overflowing, you will someday find a passive-aggressive note regarding it.
This note will likely state how ‘they are always the one to do it’ and how ‘nobody else cleans up’. This could be very well true, but it’s not the best approach. One way to resolve it is to clean up the mess, and speak to the note-writer and ask them to be more direct next time. Also, maybe sort out a cleaning rota too.
The Couple’s Argument
You might be moving in with your long term partner at university or you might have a new beau that hangs out there a lot. But you will end up having your first argument at university at some point.
Here, you’ll argue about something they’ve done to upset you. Maybe they keep leaving a mess or they keep hanging out at yours too much. It will be uncomfortable, but the first argument is good to get out of the way. Just remember to treat each other with respect and don’t say something you’ll regret later – it’s probably no big deal anyways.
The Over-the-Phone Argument
This one will happen late at night while you’re in your uni room, and you’ll probably end up speaking way too loud. This usually happens with parents or friends back home who misconstrue something due to miscommunication.
Try to keep the volume down and resolve the issue in the morning when you’ve calmed down, and so you won’t wake up your flatmates. An argument is easier to process after sleeping on it, and you’ll realise it probably didn’t matter anyway.
The Mystery Culprit Argument
As you will come to realise very quickly after moving into student accommodation, there will be things that happen where you can’t figure out who is the culprit. There may be a perpetual wet spot on the counter or crumbs that never get wiped away. But you just don’t know who did it.
It will all become too much and you will probably end up subtly arguing with each flatmate individually to ascertain who the culprit is. You might never end up finding this one out unless you have the next argument…
The House Meeting Argument
For issues where you can’t find the culprit or have issues with everyone in the house, it might be time to call a house meeting. Nobody likes these house meetings, but it will happen at some point.
Here, you’ll all end up airing your grievances at the kitchen table and it will be terribly uncomfortable. People will probably get defensive, but at least you’ve said what you need to say.
These are 5 Arguments You’re Sure to Have at University
University isn’t always plain sailing, and you’re sure to have a few conflicts here and there. As long as you treat each other with respect and approach the situation with care, you’ll be able to resolve them all in no time.
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